Lesson for Sary: How to aproach a male


Today it was study and lesson time for Sary. After she is now for years in her education to become a woman, it was time to go a step further and learn her something about the other gender - about males. The lesson today was about how to get known and aproach a male. As this can be of interest for all of you i may share some of the lesson here:

How to Approach a man


1. Look your best. You never know (or maybe you do) when you’ll run into this guy. Just in case you do, you want to look good as possible.

2 Introduce yourself. This can be an intimidating step if you’re naturally shy. However, most people are happy to meet a new person and feel at ease when someone takes the time to introduce themselves politely
- Keep it simple. If you frequent a place where is often and he’s become familiar with your face, simply say, “Hi, I’m Sary. I don’t think I’ve gotten your name yet,” next time you go in there.
- You can say, “I see you around a lot, but I don’t think we’ve actually met. I’m Sary.”

3. Compliment him. People always remember when someone compliments them. It’s flattering and lets them know that you noticed something about them. Find something you can tell him you appreciate about either his appearance or something he’s done. He’ll associate you with the positive feelings of the compliment.
Tell him you like a piece of clothing, particularly if there’s something you can identify about it. For example, you could say, “Nice T-shirt. I love that band, too.”

4.  Make flirtatious eye contact. Flirtatious eye contact can come in a few different forms. Generally, you need to maintain eye contact for at least four seconds before coyly looking down or away. Holding his gaze this long lets him know you’re flirting.
 you can subtly lick your lips. This is considered rather forward, so make sure you know what you’re doing.There’s a difference between flirting and staring. Make sure you’re reading his signals and responding, not just staring at him.

5. Smile. It may seem obvious, but if you’re feeling very nervous or shy, you may forget to smile. However, smiling is important. It sends the signal that you’re friendly and approachable. It also shows that you may be interested.

6.  Make a statement. This can make you look and sound very confident. Say something to him about your surroundings. This invites conversation and lets him know you’re interesting to talk to.
You can say something like, “Wow, this weather is incredible, isn’t it?” or “The coffee at this place is incredible.”You can also ask him for help or directions. Say something like, “I’ve never been here before. Do you have a type of coffee you’d recommend?” or “Can you help me figure out how to get to the library from here?”

7.  Do something nice for him. Doing something nice for him is a great way to let him know you like him without having to actually say anything. It can be a small gesture, but make sure it’s something he’ll notice and appreciate.

8.  Be direct. If you can’t tell if he likes you or is getting the signals you’re sending, you can always be direct. This can be very exciting for guys, since they won’t have to spend time guessing about your intentions
You can be direct without being demanding. Say something like, “I’d really like to get together sometime, if you’re interested.”
 In being direct, you can let him know what you like about him. Say something like, “You seem like a really interesting person. Would you like to hang out sometime?”
 Some people like to be super direct and simply say, “I have to tell you that I have a really big crush on you.” This can sometimes be seen as charming, but can sometimes put a guy off. He might not know what to do with that information or might feel put on the spot.

9. Write him a note. This ecan be a cute way to let him know you’re interested. It can also be a way to slip him your number so that the ball is in his court. Keep it simple. You don’t need to profess your undying love right this second.

10. Invite him to an event. You may be afraid to ask this guy out, but he’ll likely be flattered. Most guys don’t get asked out very much, so it will probably be extra exciting for him. Think ahead of a fun event you want to invite him to.
Choose something that happens on a specific day, such as a concert. Don’t just choose something like getting a drink.
Say something like, “Hey, I’ve got an extra ticket to ____. Maybe you’d like to come with me?”

Of course for Sary, as next step it is practice. She get a list of places from me where she may meet males to aproach them. She get ordered to do so, and report to me about the details. She was not very happy about, but after such a long time educated by me i am sure she will follow...


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